Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore. – Lady GagaHow can we, as women, encourage each other to pursue our dreams? What can we do when a friend is on the verge of giving up a career for societal reasons? Based on my experience, here are some useful steps we can take.
When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.
You can waste your lives drawing lines. Or you can live your life crossing them – Shonda RhimesSo let’s stop drawing lines, particularly those defined by societal or family pressure. Let’s find a way to work quietly behind the scenes and move to the top. Let’s find a solution for every obstacle in our way. It is easier said than done. It is hard. It is painful. It is challenging. But at the end of the journey, there is a lot satisfaction.